We recently worked out an exchange with the Bratling. She comes over about once a week to visit & stays the night. It's nice to have somewhat regular time with her. Last week, we dug up the spare key for her.
After she drives me to work in the morning, she goes back to the house and does some cleaning. It's nice to have the extra hands. D and I seem to have a hard time keeping up with everything. So we get something that helps us out, and she gets something she wants, too.
I have to say... I really like the idea of her being there. In my home. Not far, far away, but just right there.
I like to take long baths, soaking and reading. I like to have that time alone to relax.
...Unfortunately, my son doesn't think I should be alone. He likes to come in and keep me company so I don't get lonely. (His words.) He offers me toys, and talks to me, and does various things that you would expect from a four-year-old who doesn't really want to sit around in silence while I read.
I came up with a solution. It allows me to enjoy my book, while not rejecting my son's attempt to spend time with me.
I read out loud.
Eventually, he gets bored of the book with no pictures, and wanders out. I don't lose book time attending to him. I don't get frustrated and upset with him. He doesn't walk out crying or angry. And, most importantly, I don't have to lock the door to the only bathroom in the house to get some relaxing done.
"Be as graceful and patient as possible when your mood is low. Try not to overreact, make important decisions, solve your problems, figure out your life, or argue when you're feeling low, because you won't have much common sense, compassion, or wisdom."